Cheating The Cardinal Sin Or Positive Social Contribution
Asked for my thoughts on the subject by a friend, I watched her face transform as she was repulsed by my utterances. That was funny as hell. Folks, besides what we have been socialized to think, have you ever given any thought at all as to what constitutes a cheater or better yet how far can you go before you have cheated on your partner. I urge you to throw out what society has imbedded in our social CPU and spend a little while to consider at what point between checking out the new girl at work and moving in for the kill have you committed the cardinal sin of infidelity.
Let me start by confessing that my definition for cheating is user defined. What do I mean by that? Simply put, there can be no generic definition, no one size fits all garbage. (At this point I can just feel the ireful eyes of my female readers piercing my skin). However, girls bear with me as my mind is rather unifying and as such is not gender bias, my prescription will apply whether you are male or female, so chin up girls. Cheating and guilt are inextricably linked, that is the only point regarding this topic on which my views and that of society’s coincide. If you cheat guilt exudes from your pores as a byproduct. That is a no-brainer. The perceptive soul sees where my theory is going. The transitive being is able to grasp that one, whether male or female, can go to any extreme with someone other than their partner and by their conscience remain faithful to their partner. Extremes like lusting, flirting, kissing even doing the dirty and all that matters in such an encounter is that you remain guilt free. In other words, if the boss has deep, passion filled, animal sex with his sweet sweet assistant and is able in his mind to separate the sex he had at work from the love he has for his wife and children at home, cheating averted! Think about it …… what I must say however, is the act of separating the two is not a trivial matter. It takes much practice and research, it may help if you have a mentor. Now we’re getting into something deep. The research required though is rather simple, it involves finding your limits and the practice is of course where those limits are put to the test.
We have also been programmed to think that extra marital affairs are from the devil and as such are innately wrong and can have absolutely no positive social contribution. Once again I will condemn that view, because I believe that these institutions of infidelity can in fact enhance the structure which it first defiled, provided the intentions are pure. That is if Bob cheats on his wife Jane with Kim, it is possible to have Bob’s extra marital relations with Kim can help keep his marriage with Jane healthy and wholesome. My God those eyes, those piercing eyes …… but fight I must in order to bring truth to the world ……. funny huh? The issue though must be centered on the reason for Bob’s relations with Kim in the first instance. Imagine a home where Bob loves his darling wife Jane, worships the ground on which she walks, equally she is the perfect wife and mother to his children, there is just one tiny problem Bob’s sexual desires are not being satisfied. He has a craving for sex twice daily, five times a week however, Bob can survive by having sex with his wife three times per week, anything less is merely punishment to Bob, but Bob loves his wife and has absolutely no ill intentions for her or his kids. Remember she is the perfect wife, minus the fact that her sexual needs are vastly different from his, she is satisfied having good quality sex once every seven days. Houston we have a problem ……. ding ding ding, hence his sexual relations with Kim.
How can anyone in their hearts of hearts say that such an institution is inherently immoral, evil and without social merit? Email me your thoughts at kishon@panacheja.com.
